According to James 4:2-3, we want what we don’t have, so we scheme and kill to get it. We are jealous of what others have, but we can’t get it, so we fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet we don’t have what we want because we don’t ask God for it. 3 And even when we ask, we don’t get it because our motives are all wrong—we want only what will give us pleasure.
What does one add to that?
I found out that when we don’t ask we tend to desire being cared for and expect people who care about us to dream or guess, even look into our hearts and minds to see what we need or want and provide it.
This is the joke of our life, thinking people care enough to mine that kind of data from our thoughts and heart, analyze it and then fulfill it. Hehe, are you a computer? Even that kind of application on computers is fed accordingly to its needs and it’s programmed to ask and it does ask.
Wonder why we fail at this. Jesus said it, ask and it shall be given.
It’s in the prayer He taught us.
It’s written everywhere in the Bible that even when God knows our needs, desires, and wants, he waits for us to ask of Him. If God can’t impose on us our own needs what about our fellow human beings who don’t even know what it is we desire, need, or want?
Then there is the critical case of not knowing what we want, need, or desire… Oh! This one streams from the lack of self-understanding and knowledge. If you don’t know yourself you can’t know what you need, want, or desire. You will be using yourself as a rubbish pit, everything goes. A toilet everyone eases themselves in. Let’s invest in knowing ourselves and then know what that self needs, desire, and want, then ask for it and live a fulfilled life.
Not forgetting, the knowledge of what we need comes with the purpose of helping others too. It should not be selfish and self-centered what we want, desire, and need. It shouldn’t give the asker pleasure but everyone else connected to them has to benefit from it.