While personally the notion of two members of the same sex engaging in sexual behavior is somewhat revolting and offends my sensibilities, the Uganda Constitution (I understand the Uganda gay bill is not implemented) does not exist to protect my sensibilities. Ugandans– even Christian Ugandans, must understand that there are higher ideals that, by design, must take precedence over personal feelings when it comes to an issue such as homosexuality.

I believe that the Constitution of the Uganda was written in a very precise way and that the words on those pages have a direct impact on our lives today and how our nation should move regardless of the many amendments. (Do we still have term limits in there, in the constitution I mean? Forgive my amnesia.)

Anyway there are these are two words Acceptance and Tolerance that are interchanged carelessly when a great social debate such as homosexuality is discussed, and all too often, no one is there to point out the very important difference between them.

But I am here to try;




noun: acceptance; plural noun: acceptances

  1. 1. the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered. “charges involving the acceptance of bribes” synonyms: receipt, receiving, taking, obtaining; a draft or bill that is accepted by being signed.

  2. 2. the action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group. “you must wait for acceptance into the club” synonyms: welcome, favorable reception, adoption “her acceptance into the group”

  3.  3. agreement with or belief in an idea, opinion, or explanation. “acceptance of the teaching of the church” synonyms: belief in, trust in, faith in, confidence in, credence in, giving of credence to; willingness to tolerate a difficult or unpleasant situation. “a mood of resigned acceptance” synonyms: toleration, endurance, forbearance, sufferance “the acceptance of pain”

Focus on definition 2 and 3 of acceptance.




noun: tolerance

  1. 1. the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with. “the tolerance of corruption” synonyms: acceptance, toleration; the capacity to endure continued subjection to something, especially a drug, transplant, antigen, or environmental conditions, without adverse reaction. plural noun: tolerances “the desert camel shows the greatest tolerance to dehydration” synonyms: endurance of, resistance to, resilience to, resistance to, immunity to “she has a low tolerance to alcohol” diminution in the body’s response to a drug after continued use.

  2. 2. an allowable amount of variation of a specified quantity, especially in the dimensions of a machine or part. “250 parts in his cars were made to tolerances of one thousandth of an inch”

Focus on define 1 of tolerance.

Do you see the difference and the similarities?

Tolerance is believed to be the same as acceptance but I think these were changed to benefit someone – a politician maybe (story for another day). But as you see above there are kinda different.

In that regard a great problem I have noticed with members of the LGBT community is that they are searching for something that they will never find: acceptance. If you listen to the rhetoric that comes out of the LGBT movement, acceptance is really what they desire above all else. They view equality under the law as an extension of acceptance rather than a completely different concept that stands apart from tolerance or equality.

It should be known as a Christian acceptance for this will not pass, it is referred to as unnatural – it led to the destruction of two cities by the God. And by the Word of God, we are bound to resist the LGBT lifestyle. Along with us, are other heterosexual couples that find it unsettling or offensive, that LGBT members engage in sexual behaviors.

Despite their best efforts, the LGBT community will never be accepted like they want to be because inherently, their lifestyle is unnatural and (to many) immoral. This stigma will be hard to get reed of in society as many heterosexual parents are raising their kids the same way they were raised.

In that case this is a suggestion, do not shoot;

Why doesn’t LGBT community stay away from the word “gay marriage”? Like, they just stop pushing for it to be accepted by Christians. It should be known that Marriage to Christians is an institution that was created by God.

Haven’t you ever wondered why most marriages occur in a church? Marriage is defined in the Bible as the God-ordained union between one man and one woman. It is a sacred religious right that was adopted by governments for the purposes of tracking and taxation. Christians feel that they cannot support the term “gay marriage” because it is an affront to God and the institution of marriage that God has ordained. This is the same reason why the gay community will not settle for “civil unions” and desire to be placed on equal footing with heterosexual couples.

In this regard its essence, that all persons must understand each other’s behaviors and consider them as normal, justified, or morally upright. We should continue to exercise our rights to speak out against the behavior of the LGBT community as a whole, but should embrace their equality under the human right laws- the same law that protects their right to openly decry LGBT lifestyle choices.

It’s surely a struggle out here.

Patricia Kahill

Patricia Kahill is a multipotentialite Christian entrepreneur, Content Marketing Coach and founder of the Content Marketing agency, Kahill Insights that helps business owners create engaging and interactive content items for digital platforms with a focus on returning a desired outcome. Patricia was the producer of SlamDunk Basketball Talk a show on House of Talent online TV, a former fellow at Harvest Institute for leadership and now an assessor there, and an alumnus of the YELP class of 2017. A member of the BNI Integrity chapter and African Women Entrepreneur Cooperative. She is driven by passion and curiosity, been taking every opportunity that has been given to her with an ambition of stamping her footprint on the world.

21 thoughts on “Open Letter to Homophobic Ugandans: This is not about you.”

      1. I didn’t get what you were trying to say especially in that last paragraph.

        “We should continue to exercise our rights to speak out against the behavior of the LGBT community as a whole, but should embrace their equality under the human right laws-” this statement contradicts itself.

        “the same law that protects their right to openly decry LGBT lifestyle choices.” – please look at this sentence again.

  1. Thank you! You have put it very nicely.

    As someone who reserves my right to find homosexuality disgusting, but also as a Christian who knows God’s all encompassing love for EVERYONE I have often been unable to articulate myself on this. Thank you.

  2. The Six Stages of Deception

    Deception is a process by which wrong becomes right, and right becomes wrong. It’s a complete paradigm shift of opinions, standards and morals that is achieved softly, subtly and often takes a generation to entrench into society.
    If you want to know what I am talking about, find out your mother’s views on things like sexuality and marriage and compare them with yours. The contrast in opinions does not necessarily prove that she is old and antiquated; it may instead prove that you have been deceived.
    There are six stages of deception.
    I. The Shocker
    II. The Outrage
    III. The Discussion
    IV. Tolerance
    V. Acceptance
    VI. Veneration
    If I wanted to popularize the most unimaginable thing in our society, say like bestiality (the practice of having sex with animals). I would follow these steps.

    I.The Shocker
    I would select a forerunner to drop the shocking message on an unsuspecting public. “We should start having sex with animals,” he would announce on radio, TV or in a newspaper.
    That is the shocker; the bombshell, so to speak. It would inevitably be followed by outrage.

    II. The Outrage
    The forerunner is abused and demonized by the bewildered public. Every respected leader in society comes out to slam the lamentable reprobate who dared suggest something so obnoxious. The forerunner defiantly defends the practice. His critics come out even more scathing. But the forerunner knows exactly what he is doing. He is setting an agenda. Many people don’t understand the effect of continuous exposure on the human mind.
    I will give an example most of you will understand. If you ask a girl out and she is not interested in you, the best thing she can do for herself is stay away from you or your words. If she continues listening to you, what was initially unthinkable becomes worth a consideration, then acceptable. Many ladies have fallen for guys they swore never to date just because they didn’t understand the law of continuous exposure.

    III. The Discussion
    Once the bestiality message reaches the third stage; discussion, the forerunner has done his job. At this stage there is a big debate over bestiality; with most people still slamming it, not knowing that they are falling into a trap.
    I know for a fact that homosexual groups abroad were giving money to people fighting homosexuality in Uganda. Then they would also fund those pushing for it. Initially it didn’t make sense. Until I learnt how deception works. What they wanted was to keep the subject of homosexuality in public debate. They know exactly what they were doing. The more people are exposed to it through discussion, the more it becomes less obnoxious in their minds.
    That leads to the next stage: Tolerance.

    IV. Tolerance
    At this stage people say: “I am not going to have sex with animals, but if someone chooses to do it, shauri yake (that’s his problem). Others will say: “Who cares what people do behind closed doors?”

    I have heard these statements being made by people who clearly don’t understand what they are up against.
    This is the stage at which science kicks in to ‘prove’ that some people are born with an inherent attraction towards animals and they cannot help themselves. Consequently, bestiality is included in the UN Human Rights Charter and activists are given a new pursuit. Economic and travel sanctions are used to twist the arms of nations that still forbid it.
    Then we start hearing phrases like: “We cannot tell people whom they should love.” The main purpose of this stage is to ensure that bestiality is legally accepted. The next two steps are aimed at entrenching it at a social level. The penultimate stage is Acceptance.

    V. Acceptance
    At this stage bestiality becomes a conventional alternative way of living. All the outrage has since dissipated. This is the stage at which those still opposed to it are called bestiaphobic (the word will be coined) and they are considered antiquated, old-fashioned, intolerant, dogmatic, religious zealots, bigots…. you’ve heard all those words.
    This is the stage at which there are bestiality rights parades in major cities. Then we are reminded that the same book in the Bible that forbids bestiality also forbids eating pork. Then ‘intellectuals’ think use that to rubbish the Word of God, and make it look ridiculous.
    The final step is Veneration.

    VI. Veneration
    This is the stage at which the people who practice bestiality are praised. The liberalist media (which includes almost all international channels) subtly promotes them as ‘cool’, intelligent, exposed. That’s the stage at which celebrities ‘come out’ to reveal that they are ‘proud bestialists’.
    Then bestiality begins to win fresh ‘converts’ everyday because many young people will do anything to be seen as ‘cool’ or to be associated with some Hollywood or football star. That is how you corrupt a whole society.
    That’s how previously unthinkable things like atheism and homosexuality and all other forms of sexual perversion have taken root in our society. You have probably heard of the black homo American footballer who “made history by becoming the first footballer to come out”. What’s historical about someone proclaiming their perversion? So many other people are being lauded in the media for no other reason other than their homosexuality.
    Your mother may not be outdated after all. You may be deceived. If you found this enlightening, share it with as many people as possible. It might just save them from the ever-widening canyon of deception.

    1. Hi Solomon, i would really like to thank you for the response that you gave to this article, though Nava is still hiding in the blanket trying to tell us that she is not for but as well not against homosexuality, you put it straight, I made a comment on youtube follow(Jamaican underground gays, pastor run dem, bun dem) and one gay guy, whatever that means calling himselg Kingpinal646 was maddened by the whole response, but after reading this i think i have given him the response of his life. all from you

  3. Tehehe… Do you know Junior?
    The one guy who does all of the Njogelele Movies…

    At the beginning of the comments section he would say,
    Katandika Butandisi….

    At some of those comments, he would be saying
    Laba Teke…
    Laba Teke!

    PS: Tehehe, I know this is not the comment you were expecting… BWAHAHAHAHA, deal with it!

      1. Lol… This issue, one thing I have learned from all this post back and forth is that ‘most’ people are itchy to take a side.

        They will read a post and if you do not make a clear stance either for or against, they will disregard anything else you may have said.

        Quite interesting!!

        1. I know, suggestions are not welcome, ideas not needed, yet we need a middle ground to have a happy ever after. I will continue to find insightful solutions and suggestions to such issues and share them. Surely God didn’t die for us to be enemies but rather create friendships.

  4. ….loved the piece…been tryna tell that to my collegues…that last paragraph is so clear….it means that we dont have to like it but,the lgbt comm deserves their human rights too…and I agree acceptance is not a sentiment they’ll be experiencing in the near future…love your works

  5. For someone with a number of gay friends, I try to understand it and how that happens but I never come to the terms with it. I feel like I am going against everything I believe in and yet these are the few people that seem genuine as human beings and friendships that are so genuine I never want to lose that. This article helps me understand my feelings and not feel bad about not accepting the act. Much appreciation Kahill

  6. nyabo, be straight on the point, it is either you are with us , or your last paragraph suggests that you are with them

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