Growing up in a liberal family is a very interesting thing; you get to make your own choices and decisions with guidance.  My parents always said we advise you and you decide, we show you the rope and show the many ways you can use it and you chose.

I was told and shown what was bad and good, what was important and what wasn’t. There were decisions that were so hard to make but guidance was given and the ball was left in my hands. Explanations were given for everything that made no sense to me, so that I could make my own observations and decide with knowledge accordingly.

Democracy (the practice or principles of social equality) was something we learnt early as children, without even knowing the word. I and my siblings were given the power to be responsible for ourselves and others around us, with rules that made us equal in the family. No one was greater than the other, we were all children to our parents and they equal to each other.

My parents never dictated but rather suggested and shared the pros and cons of anything. We understood why dishes needed to be washed after every meal, why clothes needed to be changed every after a day and why napping was a necessary requirement for a child. Why Dad was the head of the family and Mum his deputy and helper. Why dad always drove and mum sat comfortably in the navigator’s seat and us in the back.

This education has shaped the person I am today; it has helped me become responsible for my decisions and making good ones at that. I have had times when I have made bad ones but it was still my choice I was not decided for, until I met the 2016 elections.

Without finding my name in the register after seeing it during the verification days, I was decided for leaders that I didn’t choose. Even though I trusted others to make wise choices, the incumbent government made theirs look like that one time I decided to get into a fight with a snake and it won. Left me with 2 snake bites and crying my eyes out.

I have seen authoritarianism in the last few days make my childhood learnt democracy so weak, I wondered if I had lost it. I had lost the one thing that made me free to do whatever I wanted as longer as I was not affecting others. I have lost my freedom to communicate, to transact at anytime I want and my sense of security.

How can one person decide for a country when to transact and when not? How can he decide for us mediums to use to communicate? How dare he make us outlaws? Why make our decisions so lame we doubt our capability to make wise ones? What gives a man authority to make others feel irrelevant?

I have very many questions but I doubt I will get the answers; this is not my dad who would sit me down and explain everything or my mother who would narrate a story to make me understand or make sense of how systems work.

I kinda feel lost right now…

Patricia Kahill

Patricia Kahill is a multipotentialite Christian entrepreneur, Content Marketing Coach and founder of the Content Marketing agency, Kahill Insights that helps business owners create engaging and interactive content items for digital platforms with a focus on returning a desired outcome. Patricia was the producer of SlamDunk Basketball Talk a show on House of Talent online TV, a former fellow at Harvest Institute for leadership and now an assessor there, and an alumnus of the YELP class of 2017. A member of the BNI Integrity chapter and African Women Entrepreneur Cooperative. She is driven by passion and curiosity, been taking every opportunity that has been given to her with an ambition of stamping her footprint on the world.

12 thoughts on “#UgBlogWeek Day 7: Is it still Democracy?”

  1. well I could relate to some paragraphs and not all to some, i.e paragraph six, well my name was there in the register. . . and the last paragraph my parents don’t narrate stories to make me and siblings understand blah blah blah…..
    but one thing that I am sure about I kinda feel lost as welll

      1. Democracy in Uganda has one problem, the separate entities i.e. EC, Legislature and Judiciary State too are in a Fictional independent citation, hence the executive in real life has fused them all together to an extent Gov’t can’t be a judge against its self…. Making things like elections fixed! Plus we Ugandans want change but are not ready or willing to pay the price! So many factors are in Play here!!

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