If you asked someone how they would define friendship, the answer will usually be “someone who will always be there when you need them, a person who never lies, a person who will always put you first before anyone else” and so on. But who actually fits that description?

I know there are friends and true friends. Friends come in many people, but true friends only come once in a lifetime.

A real friendship will last, no matter how far they are from you, no matter how many new people they meet, or how popular they may become. To depend on a friend to always be there for you is unfair, because if that person isn’t there, what would you do? Just cut them out of your life? If you were a good friend yourself, you would understand why & know that no one is perfect.

A friend will always tell you what sounds good or what will make you happy, but a true friend will tell you the brutal truth.

FACT: real friends never try to avoid arguments because it will not harm the friendship at all. They shouldn’t be scared of getting into that argument in the first place because those little arguments are what makes the friendship stronger.

True friends know your deepest secrets, good and bad, and will still love you till the end but friends will only know your surface appearance. Friends come and go without explanation, but true friends will always be there, even when you think they’re not.

Friends are always there for you (pkahill)
Friends are always there for you (pkahill)

True friends are like family; people who treat your parents like they’re theirs, people who become best buddies to your brothers & sisters. So when you say “family always comes first”, they are already your family.

When a friend visits, they will sit and wait for service, meanwhile a true friend will rush in the fridge and grab themselves a drink and ask you if you need one yourself.

To me, friendship is like a board game. The ones who care enough will enter the game, play it, and stay until you end it together. The ones who don’t will get bored & choose to leave.

So, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away.

Patricia Kahill

Patricia Kahill is a multipotentialite Christian entrepreneur, Content Marketing Coach and founder of the Content Marketing agency, Kahill Insights that helps business owners create engaging and interactive content items for digital platforms with a focus on returning a desired outcome. Patricia was the producer of SlamDunk Basketball Talk a show on House of Talent online TV, a former fellow at Harvest Institute for leadership and now an assessor there, and an alumnus of the YELP class of 2017. A member of the BNI Integrity chapter and African Women Entrepreneur Cooperative. She is driven by passion and curiosity, been taking every opportunity that has been given to her with an ambition of stamping her footprint on the world.


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2 thoughts on “Who are Friends?”

  1. I like the analogy of the board game and playing the game till it ends. Friendship is a topic that fascinates me and one that I am forever examining. I love the picture that goes with this post. Marvalous

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