How To Overcome A No

We have all faced the word NO before, it sucks!!

Negative feedback is painful mainly when you have been working hard to something for a long time.

Some humans are even mean enough to use it as an ice breaker.

So how do you handle a No and draw strengths from it?

According to me rehearse rejection… go to the mirror and practice a rejection face and speech. The speech you will tell yourself when you are rejected. That strength speech that pulls you up and pushes you on to better things.

During your speech try to reflect on why you failed and what to do next. I always tell myself that stuff happens to me for a reason, and that is the reason I have to look for.

In the same moment or a few moments of sadness, please move on, find something new to do, focus your energy on new projects, new people, new solutions, a new you.

Do you know that ‘whatever’ word we tend to tell ourselves to feel good?. Say it to yourself all the time until you believe it. Most times I say ‘whatever who cares anyway’ that is my feel good fixer, it helps focus me again, after all it me who cared and now I am rejected so no one else cares. This has helps me a lot.

Stop Chasing for “The One”!!

“The One” is a social unicorn – it’s whatever you choose to think and the best outcome you can carve from what you have. As reluctant as others admit you don’t have to have everything figured out – most of it is learned on the journey. When in doubt, imagine what you’d say if you were giving advice to a friend.

Patricia Kahill

Patricia Kahill is a Digital Systems Architect, faith-driven entrepreneur, and founder of the Kahill Insights Group[; a seven-company ecosystem built at the intersection of technology, human behavior, and purpose. Over two decades she has trained 10,000+ individuals across Africa, authored three books, and built a multi-platform community of 75,000+ subscribers. She currently leads the Kahill Digital Marketing School, equipping the next generation of digital professionals across Uganda and the wider region.