She woke up today feeling low and lonely, she expressed this to her beloved. He told her to stop seeking attention where there was no need. Rudely, he pushed her over and walked away. Now she lays in a coffin. Her beloved doesn’t understand why.
The increased need to teach/educate each other about the problems of the mind should be taken seriously. If he had paid attention, given her a hug. She wouldn’t have committed suicide, leaving a note saying ” I couldn’t keep feeling alone and unhappy”
With enough knowledge and understanding, the beloved would have stayed home and hugged her. Cared for and availed her all the time she needs to just finish today.
Maybe He was also overwhelmed. It is surely not easy to keep filling a cup that is always running dry. And people with her problem tend to run dry very fast. They need an overflowing tap to keep nourished. Maybe he was no tap today. Maybe he also needed a tap. Or maybe he just didn’t know what to do. He didn’t know the signs or understood the symptoms.
Tomorrow she will be buried. Her parents will forever blame him for not being present when she needed him the most. He will forever wonder why he failed to keep her safe when he had vowed to do so. His love of 15 years – 6 years married – will go to the grave leaving no child to remind him of their love. Today he mourns. Tomorrow I am not sure if he will be strong enough for himself to live through it to the end.
I will send him words of encouragement as his brother has asked me to. Words I am still looking for and asking the Holy Spirit to sponsor. Words that will help overcome the blame he is to carry as fingers are already pointing at him as the cause of death.
Please don’t give up talking to your friends about mental health-related problems. Share the little knowledge you have. It can save someone. You don’t need to be a counselor a professional to share this kind of knowledge or offer a listening ear, a prayer or just silence in their company.
Be your brother’s keeper today, tomorrow and forever.
These stories break my heart. I am forced to think I am taking long working on implementing my mental well-being project.
